This was the phrase of some matrimony site. But things have become too difficult for my little brothers back home. They are not finding a bride to marry. You might have read the stories in newspapers. How Havyaka brahmin boys are not getting bride.
The girls most of the times will be at least graduates. They are not ready to marry a boy who is not in city, who is not an engineer. If the boy is in the village, looking after areca nut agriculture, even a high school educated girl is not ready to marry him. So if you go to Sirsi, Siddapur villages, you can find 4-5 bachelors in their late 20s and 30s in each village.
The problem is worse because, the parents will be aged, and many times ill. There is no daughter in law to take care of the household and the old parents.
Many boys are even searching for brides from other communities and castes. They are going in search of girls to far off places.
Well, I agree that even in our Havyaka community, the parents of girls had suffered quite a lot when searching for the groom, few decades back. But are we playing tit for tat here? Or is it survival of the fittest?
The girls most of the times will be at least graduates. They are not ready to marry a boy who is not in city, who is not an engineer. If the boy is in the village, looking after areca nut agriculture, even a high school educated girl is not ready to marry him. So if you go to Sirsi, Siddapur villages, you can find 4-5 bachelors in their late 20s and 30s in each village.
The problem is worse because, the parents will be aged, and many times ill. There is no daughter in law to take care of the household and the old parents.
Many boys are even searching for brides from other communities and castes. They are going in search of girls to far off places.
Well, I agree that even in our Havyaka community, the parents of girls had suffered quite a lot when searching for the groom, few decades back. But are we playing tit for tat here? Or is it survival of the fittest?
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