We used to hear this quite often "Share your happiness to double it. Share your difficulties to halve it". But of late, experience has shown me that difficulties or problems rarely get halved when you share them.
So you start telling your sob story to someone. The one who is listening is too human, inundated in his/her own problems, having his own belief systems, perceptions, prejudices. He can not empathize with you. So he may not agree with what you say. If he expresses his disagreement, you will feel let down. If he stays neutral, you see that he is not supporting you and suspect that he is not on your side. Remember the one who is listening is not your mother, to unconditionally support you.
My own experience has been, each time I share my difficulties, I feel let down. I feel that nobody understands me. Not surprisingly, I feel angry towards the universe, in general.
So, you have problems in your life (who does not?), start a blog, like me. Throw up each and every one of your feelings in that blog. You do not expect anyone to read it. So you will not be disappointed.
And one fine day, get up, get dressed and venture outside the house. Will the earth open itself in front of you? Will the sky fall on your head? Will there be an apocalypse? None of these things happen.
As all good things should come to an end, even bad times will have to end some day. Wait for that day, with lots of patience.
So you start telling your sob story to someone. The one who is listening is too human, inundated in his/her own problems, having his own belief systems, perceptions, prejudices. He can not empathize with you. So he may not agree with what you say. If he expresses his disagreement, you will feel let down. If he stays neutral, you see that he is not supporting you and suspect that he is not on your side. Remember the one who is listening is not your mother, to unconditionally support you.
My own experience has been, each time I share my difficulties, I feel let down. I feel that nobody understands me. Not surprisingly, I feel angry towards the universe, in general.
So, you have problems in your life (who does not?), start a blog, like me. Throw up each and every one of your feelings in that blog. You do not expect anyone to read it. So you will not be disappointed.
And one fine day, get up, get dressed and venture outside the house. Will the earth open itself in front of you? Will the sky fall on your head? Will there be an apocalypse? None of these things happen.
As all good things should come to an end, even bad times will have to end some day. Wait for that day, with lots of patience.
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