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Another chance

Was planning to write this blog few days back. Since I read about Darshan - the infamous movie star who beat his wife, apologizing to his fans and his wife Vijayalaxmi saying that she gave the complaint in a fit of anger. What is wrong with people who publish this!! He should apologize to his wife not to the fans. And she should not try to be apologetic about giving complaint, instead she should be apologetic about bearing with his violence all this time.
Then today's TOI has the article, which says that this event is a norm rather than an exception. Most women give another chance to their abusive husbands. Because of financial dependence, because of kids, because of social stigma. Even their families would expect the daughters to adjust with their husbands.
Are you giving him another chance to beat you, threaten you with gun, to burn you with cigarette? Or do you seriously think that, he will suddenly become a good person and treat you if not like a wife, at least like a fellow human being?
And whom am I kidding? If my husband would have beaten me, I would have gone till the door of police station and come back without giving any complaint. And I would have suggested my sisters to adjust if they were in such a situation.
India might have become independent 64 years ago. But we the other half, are still languishing in slavery. 

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