I have progressed.
From reading self-help articles on web to bringing self-help books from library. But this makes me wonder, if the people (me included) could help self, would they need the above mentioned books or articles?
Anyways.
The current book I have brought is for improving self esteem. Or in some cases (mine included) bringing the self esteem from the farthest corner of the mind where it is hiding holding its breath.
One of the methods - book says - is to watch for inner critic. The critic who always tries to downplay you, insult you and degrade you. And it is not your spouse. It is your own mind. See now my critic is saying "not all will blame their shortcomings on their better halves. Not like you"
So you need to understand this inner critic and shut him up. Tell him that he is NOT helping you anyways. So would he please go AWAY. Wrong English? It is ok as long as you get gist.
Next step would be to write down your strengths and weaknesses in different categories. Including physical appearance, relationship with family and close friends, behavior in social situations, mental faculties (at least some thing where I am not all minus) etc. Then add + and - on each characteristic.
You will be surprised to see how many +s you get and minuses are not as enormous faults as you thought. And it looks as if you can turn these minuses also.
So, happy self-helping ;)
From reading self-help articles on web to bringing self-help books from library. But this makes me wonder, if the people (me included) could help self, would they need the above mentioned books or articles?
Anyways.
The current book I have brought is for improving self esteem. Or in some cases (mine included) bringing the self esteem from the farthest corner of the mind where it is hiding holding its breath.
One of the methods - book says - is to watch for inner critic. The critic who always tries to downplay you, insult you and degrade you. And it is not your spouse. It is your own mind. See now my critic is saying "not all will blame their shortcomings on their better halves. Not like you"
So you need to understand this inner critic and shut him up. Tell him that he is NOT helping you anyways. So would he please go AWAY. Wrong English? It is ok as long as you get gist.
Next step would be to write down your strengths and weaknesses in different categories. Including physical appearance, relationship with family and close friends, behavior in social situations, mental faculties (at least some thing where I am not all minus) etc. Then add + and - on each characteristic.
You will be surprised to see how many +s you get and minuses are not as enormous faults as you thought. And it looks as if you can turn these minuses also.
So, happy self-helping ;)
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