Today I saw blog of a man who stated that his ideal job was house-husband, but he could not get it. He thinks he is being funny. Or may be sarcastic. But believe me. Being a house-wife or a house-husband sucks. No amount of blogging, googling or any other activity can fill the huge empty feeling you have always.
The reasons could be various. When your kids grow up, you really don't have to take care of their needs so much. They make it clear that they don't need you. And after such long marriage, you are not very important in your spouse's life either. You are not master of the house. Nor are you a servant. Who are you? Do you belong to the house at all? If you do not belong to the place where you stay 24 hours, where else do you belong?
May be I like to play the victim card. Like they say everyone of us want to feel rightfully wronged. But let me make it clear that no one stopped me from being a working mom, other than my incredible laziness.
But dear girls, learn from my mistake. If your significant other and not so significant others tell you that you need to be home to take care of your kids and you can always get a job later in life, politely smile at them and update your resume NOW. You do not want to feel worthless.
The reasons could be various. When your kids grow up, you really don't have to take care of their needs so much. They make it clear that they don't need you. And after such long marriage, you are not very important in your spouse's life either. You are not master of the house. Nor are you a servant. Who are you? Do you belong to the house at all? If you do not belong to the place where you stay 24 hours, where else do you belong?
May be I like to play the victim card. Like they say everyone of us want to feel rightfully wronged. But let me make it clear that no one stopped me from being a working mom, other than my incredible laziness.
But dear girls, learn from my mistake. If your significant other and not so significant others tell you that you need to be home to take care of your kids and you can always get a job later in life, politely smile at them and update your resume NOW. You do not want to feel worthless.
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