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Happiness

What makes us happy? Genuinely? According to Martin Seligman - the founding father of positive psychology, there are 3 different ways of being happy.

1) Pleasure - This concerns with senses. Good food, good drinks, watching TV. All such activities which are a treat to our senses. For me, whenever I am upset - which is quite often, I eat non-stop and watch TV. 

But this form of happiness is habit forming. Of course we agree.

2) Doing work with passion - Any kind of work - how much ever mundane or trivial it is, do it with 100% concentration and with love.

 

I was surprised when reading and putting into practice a site called FLYLADY had made me calmer and happier. this site teaches us how to keep our house neat and tidy. 

Now I am realizing the truth behind it. This is nothing but karma yoga from Bhagavat Gita. 

3) Using your strengths for greater good of the society - helping others. Doing something useful for the society.

All those rich plump ladies who try to do social service are searching for this form of happiness.  Philanthropy may be a way of finding non-guilty happiness. It improves our self esteem. And when people who benefit from our work praise us, that boosts the morale even more. 

Find out which of these 3 ways of finding happiness suits you. And be happy because life is too short.  





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